How to Create Your Birth Guide (Not a Birth Plan)
When preparing for labor and birth, many people are encouraged to create a birth plan. But here’s the truth—birth is unpredictable, and you can’t plan every detail. Instead of thinking of it as a rigid plan, consider it a birth guide—a flexible outline of your preferences that allows for adjustments as needed.
A birth guide helps you communicate your wishes while staying open to the unexpected. Here’s how to create one that reflects your ideal birth experience while embracing the unpredictable nature of labor and birth.
1. Start with Your Birth Preferences
Think about what’s important to you in your birth experience. Some key areas to consider include:
Environment: Do you want dim lighting, music, or a quiet space?
Pain Management: Would you like to try unmedicated techniques first, or are you open to an epidural?
Labor Preferences: Are there specific positions or movement techniques you’d like to try?
Medical Interventions: How do you feel about induction, membrane sweeps, or assisted birth if needed?
Breathe Work: Do you have a certain kind of breathe technique you have learned and want to incorporate?
Cervical Exams: Are you ok with doctors and midwives performing routine cervical exams?
2. Consider the “What-Ifs”
Birth is full of surprises, and flexibility is key. Instead of thinking in absolutes, explore your preferences if things don’t go as planned.
If you need a cesarean, what aspects of the experience are important to you?
If labor takes longer than expected, what support measures would help you stay comfortable?
If an intervention is suggested, how will you gather information to make the best decision for you and your baby?
By preparing for multiple possibilities, you’ll feel more confident and in control, no matter how your birth unfolds.
3. Keep It Simple and Share It with Your Birth Team
Your birth guide should be clear, concise, and easy to reference during labor. A one-page document with bullet points is ideal. Share it with your partner, doula, and healthcare provider ahead of time so they understand your preferences and can advocate for you if needed.
4. Focus on Feelings, Not Just Logistics
Beyond medical choices, think about how you want to feel during labor and birth. Do you want encouragement and hands-on support, or a quieter, more private space? Communicating these emotional preferences is just as important as logistical details.
5. Be Open to the Unexpected
A birth guide is not about controlling birth—it’s about preparing, not predicting. Staying open-minded and trusting your birth team allows you to navigate changes with confidence and peace of mind.
Your Birth, Your Way.
Creating a birth guide helps you feel empowered, informed, and ready for labor—while also allowing space for the unexpected. Birth may not go exactly as you envision, but with the right preparation and support, it can still be a positive and empowering experience.
If you’d like help creating your birth guide and preparing for labor, I’d love to support you! Contact me today to learn more about my birth doula services.
